Would you ever sign a prenuptial agreement? Would it upset you?

A lot of people think that prenuptial agreements are defeatist and show a lack of faith in one’s partner and the potential longevity of the relationship.  I am not one of those people.  When done properly, a prenuptial agreement is a safety net.  The signers do not expect divorce, nor do they anticipate wanting it.  Instead, they plan for the possibility that—despite all of their efforts to keep a marriage together—it may still fail.

The prenuptial agreement is there to help them avoid some of the heartache involved in the allocation and separation of assets during a divorce.  It is done before the marriage is solemnized so that the agreement on the necessary terms is made while the couple is still in love and wanting to provide for each other as well as themselves, whereas in most divorces in which a couple did not have a prenuptial agreement, either one or both parties tends to try and take everything from the other, or to stab them in the back to get revenge.

A prenuptial agreement can at least curtail the possibility of one partner actually getting more than their fair share of a marriage’s assets.  That is why I signed my prenup: to protect both my husband and myself from possible—if unlikely—future backstabbing.